Finding Magic in the Mess

Author: lesthanperfect

Let Me Tell You ‘Bout My Best Friend

Let Me Tell You ‘Bout My Best Friend

I know you’ve heard it. In fact, you might’ve even heard it from me. I bet you could scroll through my Facebook feed and find me saying it more than once. Ditch the scale. Just pay attention to how your clothes fit. It’s just a […]

My Way or the Highway

My Way or the Highway

About a year ago, I experimented with the keto diet to try to pinpoint some blood sugar issues I was having. So of course I joined numerous social media groups full of “experts” to get some ideas and recipes. Time after time, I saw people […]

Did You Lock The Door?

Did You Lock The Door?

Earlier this week, a friend told a story about her husband accidentally locking her out of the house. They were both outside, her phone was inside, and he was leaving for work. He locked the door to the house like he always did and got in his car to leave. Thankfully, my friend realized what was happening before he left. Her point in sharing that story was that when we aren’t present, we can create some chaos pretty quickly. Which is SO true, but that’s her lesson to teach.


But I starting thinking about what she said. About mundane routines.
You know how you can sometimes get lost in thought while driving and end up at your destination with no memory of driving there?
Do you actually remember brushing your teeth this morning or was it so routine, your body just knew what to do without you thinking about it?
How many things do you do in your day that you don’t even have to think about? You wake up, check your phone, use the bathroom, brush your teeth, make the coffee, pick up your keys, lock the door…


Why do we resist creating routines that make us better? Healthier? Happier?


How many times do you have to consciously remember to lock the door before you don’t have to remember anymore? Let’s say it takes 20 times, just for fun. Word on the street is that it takes 3 weeks to create a habit, but I have faith we can do it a day sooner…For twenty days straight, you lock the door before going to work and around number 21, you don’t have to think about it anymore. And why do we do this? To protect our homes, right? For the one in a million chance that the bad guy picks our house.

So… what else could you do in 20 days?

Create a healthy breakfast/lunch/dinner routine.
Create a daily workout routine.
Create a daily meditation or prayer or journaling routine.
Create a daily self-care routine.


Y’all. These things are more important than locking your doors. The likelihood that your house is going to be broken into on the one day you forget to lock the door is like 0.0000004%. The likelihood that the above routines could create a healthier and happier person is ONE MILLION PERCENT.
My blog, my math.


You know why you don’t do these things? Because you keep telling yourself that you can’t. Or you don’t have time.


Here is one of my favorites: “My body just doesn’t get up that early.” That came out of MY mouth. Let’s file that under “Lies That Come Out Of Our Mouths When We Really Just Don’t Wanna And Other Excuses We Let Ourselves Believe.” One day I set my alarm for 4:25am, got up, did a workout, and didn’t die. Then I did it again the next day. Guess what! I didn’t die again. Before I knew it, I was no longer crying all the way downstairs each morning. I was just getting up and working out. Because it’s just what I DID everyday. Like locking my door. But better.

Early morning workouts are my new normal.


One day, while making my coffee, I put in a cup less than what I had been in the habit of doing for years. Y’all, it was a medical miracle, but I made it through the WHOLE day. In fact, I’ve made it a whole year on one and a half cups of coffee versus my old habit of three.


Did I want to do any of that? Not necessarily. But what I DID want was to feel strong, have a healthy body, and not be totally dependent on caffeine to live my life. And now that those things are routine, I don’t even think about it. It’s just my life. Kind of like natural peanut butter, whole grain bread, and almond milk. I’ve been eating those things so long that I’ve forgotten what the alternatives taste like.


I challenge you to take some time after reading this to pick just one small thing you could change this week to create a new, healthier routine to help create a happier YOU. Don’t try to do ALL the healthy things at once. That’s proven to backfire every time. Start with one thing.

Here are some ideas:

  • Drink 12 ounces of water as soon as you wake up
  • Pick up a journal or book instead of your phone when your alarm goes off
  • Instead of running for coffee at 3:00, try a few minutes of deep breathing and a healthy snack
  • Put down your phone and pick up a book. Even better, pick up a journal
  • Go for a walk. There are many days my nerves are vibrating at a frequency I feel like dogs can hear, but once I move my body for about 30 minutes, I feel like myself again
  • Throw out the Cokes (here in the South we call all sodas/pop Coke. Yep, Sprite is Coke. It’s all Coke. So throw out the Coke).
  • Replace your drive-thru habit with a salad
  • Try a new recipe
  • Take a deep breath with your eyes closed before disciplining children or reacting to negativity
  • Start a gratitude journal
  • Unfollow negative/argumentative people on social media
  • Stand outside barefoot in the grass (this one is courtesy of my friend, Lauren Danner, and it’s an awesome way to calm anxiety)

I would love to know what healthy routine you plan on creating in your life. I’ll be keeping you all updated on mine…

And now, every time you lock your door, I hope you think of this post and it reminds you that changing your life is just one little tweak away.

Healthy Holidays and Other Annoying Concepts

Healthy Holidays and Other Annoying Concepts

As I was walking into my bathroom with my mouth filled with contraband Halloween candy that I have hidden from everyone in my family, I heard her. I was about to shower so that my son and I could go shopping for Christmas cookie ingredients, […]

Breakfast, Sweet Breakfast

Breakfast, Sweet Breakfast

I’m a big believer in not forcing yourself to eat things you don’t like. But I also believe in retrying foods you think you don’t like. Taste buds change and if you keep reintroducing foods, you may find yourself pleasantly surprised that you do, in […]

Leslie’s Personal Faves: Cypress Skin Care

Leslie’s Personal Faves: Cypress Skin Care

It’s the final countdown! The holiday season is here which brings the season of giving. Now, I’m not going to judge whether you’re giving to someone else or to yourself… All I know is that it’s the season of giving!

For the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing some of my favorite things. Personal products, food, gifts, recipes, etc. Hopefully I can help you and your family have a more meaningful and healthier holiday season!

First, let me tell you about Cypress Skin Care…

Two things started my rampage through my house to rid it of anything toxic. First was when my husband and I experienced a miscarriage. Like many women, I thought it was somehow my fault. Yes, I know that it wasn’t, but you can’t reason with a mother who has lost a baby. So I started reading about how not only what we put in our bodies can have a negative impact on our hormones, but what we put ON our bodies can as well.

Second, when my mother died of cancer five years ago, I started doing research on cancer prevention. I found more information about the harmful ingredients in our cosmetic products. That did it for me.

I threw out everything. Yes, it hurt to toss money in the trash, but the health of my family was way more valuable. 

The roadblock I ran into was that organic, quality skin and hair care products are expensive and school nurses get paid what teachers get paid, so that didn’t fare well for us.

Then I met Patti.

Patti and I met in an online wellness group about four years ago and became quick friends. She told me she had a dream of creating a line of organic skin care oils. Patti is one of those types who puts dreams in to action pretty quickly, and before I knew it, samples of face oils started showing up in the mail. Fabulous, organic, silky, and affordable face oils.

Well, that was at least two years ago, and I haven’t used anything since.

Not shown: Pure Love oil cleanser, Hair Love, Foot Love, and Dog Love

There are only a handful of ingredients in each product, all of which I recognize. The oils are 100% organic and cold-pressed. I know that the person making the oils puts her love into each bottle, and I believe that love travels with my bottles from California to South Carolina. What’s even better is that I have smoother, softer skin and much less breakouts. My makeup goes on evenly after using Face Love and comes off easily with the Pure Love oil cleanser (not pictured). The last time I traveled, I used the lotion in my travel bag and there was a noticeable difference in my skin than when I use Body Love. I won’t do that again! The Lash Love naturally lengthens and thickens lashes while you sleep! Magic!

While I would love for everyone to experience Cypress Skin Care, my point in writing this is that it is important to know what we are putting on our bodies and what harm it can do. So if that concerns you, do your research and use companies you trust – not just ones with big promises and pretty labels.

 

Cypress makes the perfect gift. Foot Love is great for those on their feet all day. Hair Love is perfect for those with hair that needs a little taming. And the skin care is perfect for everyone. There’s even one for your dog! Safe skin care for the whole family!

Today is the start of Cypress Skin Care’s Black Friday and Cyber Monday sale! Visit the site and use the code THANKFUL for 50% off!!!!

The sale ends at midnight on Monday, November 26, 2018.

www.cypressskincare.com or visit her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/cypressskincare and tell her Leslie sent you! 

Up next for Cypress is a Baby Love oil!

 

Stay tuned for more of my favorite things! Comment below with yours!

The Easy Way Out: Your Permission to Take It

The Easy Way Out: Your Permission to Take It

I was talking with a friend the other day and she said something that kind of annoyed me/made me think/would make a good blog post. She was talking about a woman she saw in the drive-through line for groceries at her local store. “She didn’t […]

Simply Magic

Simply Magic

For some, the word “simple” doesn’t sound like a glamorous way to live. The word itself isn’t very sparkly or hopeful. Living a simple life might even sound drab and boring. A little too quiet. Even the definition is “a thing that is plain.” UGH. […]

And I’m Feeling Good

And I’m Feeling Good

And I’m Feeling Good…

Do you know that song? Whether it’s Sinatra, Nina Simone, or Bublé, it’s hard to hear that song without actually FEELING GOOD, right?  (And if you don’t know what I’m talking about, please do me a favor and use your Google skills to enlighten yourself. You will thank me, I promise.)
So tell me why we keep putting off feeling good by waiting until the “right” time? Why do we not do the things that we know will make us feel good? I’m as guilty as anyone as I realized a few weeks ago…
I’m one of those “I’m not buying ANY clothes until I lose 20 pounds” types of women. The problem with that is that I’ve been saying it for 5 years now. So when presented with the rare evening out with other adults to go to a restaurant that does not have a kid’s menu, I panic. I try on everything in my closet, ball it up, throw it against the wall, and sit naked on my bed crying about how nothing fits me and how I’m not going anymore, until I end up in my same old “uniform” of jeans that don’t fit covered by a big shirt to make me feel better about my too small jeans.
EVERY. DAMN. TIME.
WHY?
I’ll tell you why. Because I’ve had such an awful opinion of myself that I didn’t think I deserved new clothes. I thought I had failed myself by not losing the perfect amount of weight. I thought it was pointless to spend my hard earned money on this body.
This body. My body. Me.
I basically told myself I didn’t deserve to feel good. Isn’t that terrible? Yeah, it is. So I decided enough was enough.
Instead of the naked crying going on and on, I got up and went to the closest department store. I was like “Screw this! I’m going to look GOOD tonight.” I was on a mission. I grabbed five pairs of jeans and tried them all on, getting more frustrated after each pair didn’t fit right in any of the right places. I grabbed the last pair that I just KNEW wouldn’t work. The skinny jeans with the holes and tears in them that I saved for last because I wanted them to magically transform me into the cool/hippie/rock mom.
Hell yeah they fit. Like a freaking glove. I wanted to wear them out of the store. I couldn’t have been more excited.
But then there’s that voice in your head that won’t let you be happy. Or believe that you look good. “What if it was the store mirror? What if these look terrible in real life?”
I even made my neighbor come over to double check. She confirmed that they were magical and then gently reminded me that I could not JUST wear jeans to dinner. There also had to be a top.
Before I could panic, she was leading me into her her house and into her closet. She offers up a black, silky, button down, cold-shoulder blouse. Do people use the word blouse? Whatever it was, it was way nicer than anything in my closet. A serious transformation happened at that very moment.
I put the shirt/blouse on, and I could not believe the woman that was standing there. She wasn’t JUST a cool/hippie/rock mom. She was a beautiful woman. A confident woman. And it FELT SO GOOD.
I strutted around town that night feeling absolutely incredible. All it took was clothes that actually FIT me.  And it was noticeable. The babysitter, my sister-in-law, my husband… they all commented. More than once. But not on my clothing. They all commented on me – how I was glowing, how beautiful I looked, etc.
It was never about the clothes.
It was confidence. It was the belief that I am truly beautiful.
Please don’t wait for the right time to be you. You’re beautiful today, so BE beautiful today. FEEL beautiful today. Treat yourself like you’re everything you’ve always dreamed of because YOU ARE everything you’ve always dreamed of.
When you feel like a badass, you’ll treat yourself like a badass.
I remember thinking, “If I felt this way every day, I bet I would be a lot nicer to myself.” A woman that feels amazing isn’t likely to binge eat chocolate, chug bottles of wine, or do other self-deprecating things that people who don’t feel good about themselves do. So why NOT feel like a cool/hippie/rock mom every day? This one life we are given is precious. So what if you’re in size 22 or size 2 jeans?
As long as you’re rocking them and feeling good…

 

Let Your Love Light Shine

Let Your Love Light Shine

I’m just going to go ahead and assume that you live the same kind of life I do – busy, tired, stressed.  The list can go on forever in the mom zone.  Let’s assume that you don’t have much time to pay attention to the […]