I know you’ve heard it. In fact, you might’ve even heard it from me. I bet you could scroll through my Facebook feed and find me saying it more than once. Ditch the scale. Just pay attention to how your clothes fit. It’s just a […]
I’m just going to go ahead and assume that you live the same kind of life I do – busy, tired, stressed. The list can go on forever in the mom zone. Let’s assume that you don’t have much time to pay attention to the latest fads – beyond wondering if it’s something you should add to your ever-growing to-do list. And then you realize that you don’t want to add anything to that, so then you just ignore the fads, and then you never hear about them again.
So when I kept seeing these articles about self-care pop up all over my news feed and in my emails, I dismissed them, thinking “Ain’t nobody got time for that.”
But one day, I hit a wall.
An emotional wall. A stress wall. The kind of wall that you hit at full force, slide down, and you lie there feeling every bit of the impact in your body, and you wonder how you’re going to get up.
I had taken on way too much – I am a nurse, a mom, a wife, and then I added on launching a health coaching business while still in school.
Yes, the health coach who teaches people about how to take better care of themselves was sliding down a wall.
That’s when I started to pay more attention to what this self-care concept was. I realized very quickly that I had it all wrong. It’s not a fad and it’s not going away. Also, it had nothing to do with bubble baths and pedicures and trips to Key West and, instead, had everything to do with survival.
And had I paid attention before, I don’t think I would’ve gotten as far as hitting the wall. I could’ve stopped myself in my tracks and figured out a way to turn myself around.
My definition of self-care is loving yourself enough to nurture your inside world. That includes both your physical and emotional well-being.
This self-care thing is going to look very different for each of us. But it won’t look like expensive trips to anywhere because loving yourself is free. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy. In fact, it can be downright difficult.
For me, it has meant facing the grief I have bottled up inside of me after losing my mom to cancer. It meant standing up for myself and letting go of a toxic friendship. It meant having to take a step back, put some things on the back burner and breathe.
Breathing. And more breathing. Sometimes it really is just that simple.
In fact, I think you should try it right now. Close your eyes, take a slow, deep breath in through your nose and let it out slowly. Do it again and try to relax your face and shoulders. Doesn’t that feel nice? Boom, you’ve mastered self-care! It truly can just be that simple.
One day my son came home with a small circle of round yellow felt safety pinned to his chest. He told me it was his love light and that when something happens that makes them feel good, they put on their love light. And even when they feel sad, they put it on to remind them that the light is always there. That is the simplest and most perfect way to describe self-care. It’s doing the things that make your love light shine.
Sometimes it’s a simple breath. Sometimes it is a long walk. Sometimes it’s realizing the food you’re eating isn’t serving you well and making some changes. Sometimes it’s stepping outside with bare feet to feel the earth under them. And sometimes it is just walking away.
Whatever makes your love light shine.